My first post: They blocked me after arguing?

[Jennica]

Hello everyone.

I have a friend I recently learned that they are diagnosed with BPD. I told them that I will be there for them and support in any way that I can. One day we got into an argument and told them I may not want to be friends with them anymore (I didn’t mean it, was in a heated conversation) and got to the point that they blocked me on all the social media except for one. Not sure if they got the message that I’ve sent but I’m not sure if they’re coming back or not. I just feel hurt and confused, but I’m glad we got to talk things out and able to tell them how I felt about the situation and we are obviously learning more about each other.

My question is, I’m assuming that they are splitting. (Still learning about BPD) would they ever unblock me? I know I wish I didn’t reply when I was angry but I’d like to think it as if we did not have that conversation, we both wouldn’t know how we felt. I know I may not be able to do much right now, but is there hope somewhere?

There was no cussing or any mean words were exchanged. We both got our feelings hurt, now it sucks that I cannot reach them and also giving them space.


They do usually shut down and we always communicate if they are not feeling well. I just don’t know how this will gonna turn out.

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[Ventak]

Hi Jennica, welcome to the family!  I'm so glad you reached out.

Relationships with pwBPD can be very confusing, since they exhibit behaviors that are completely unexpected.  My BPDw blocks people on social media frequently when she gets upset.  For her, she will re-engage more often than not but it is completely situational.  I don't think there is a simple answer to your question.

I encourage you to read through the site to get a feel for what this type of relationship entails, and am happy to answer any questions.

[Jennica]

Thank you so much for replying! I guess all I can do is wait. I appreciate your reply! I’ve never been in this situation and I’m still learning. Hopefully there will be a chance to make things better.

[kells76]

Hey Jennica, I want to echo Ventak in welcoming you here.

I noticed your perspective:

I’ve never been in this situation and I’m still learning. Hopefully there will be a chance to make things better.

I think that attitude will take you far -- you recognize this is new to you and you are open to learning and changing. You have hope that sometime in the future, you can make some positive changes.

Keep reading here, learning some new tools and skills, and we too hope for you that you have a chance to make a change for the better!

 

kells76

[Jennica]

Hello!

Thank you so much for noticing. That means a lot. I really really do hope that everything will work out. It’s just hard not being able to say what you want to say when they’re not there to talk.