Continuing no contact (on my end)

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Haven't posted in a while, but honestly, it's been because I haven't had much to say about BPD-related things. Life has been mostly good, other relationships are mending or growing, and I haven't interacted with her in almost two months, since the last bit of necessary interaction.

She however, still hasn't given up on whatever it is she's trying. She still stalks my reddit account and randomly replies to posts old enough that they don't end up part of any conversation, but it lets her say whatever harassing or insulting or demeaning thing she wants without consequence. Then a week ago, she randomly cc'd me on an e-mail to someone about fostering a dog (with no text in any way addressing me or my inclusion in the message). The next day, after she must have gotten a reply, she forwards me the reply, saying something like "I thought maybe you'd want this dog. I don't know."

I haven't responded to any of her attempts, either online or through e-mail, and she's blocked via every other avenue short of sending me a letter. I have no intention of making further contact. But...I'm just really, really tired of this still being a thing. It's an extra level of frustrating thanks to her specific attacks still being that I am "still the abuser", when I'm doing literally everything I can to have nothing to do with her, while she continues to hound and harass. I guess we all know pretty well now how little the logic or rationality of it are going to make sense to non-BPD folks, but it's still this constant thorn poking me just enough that even with my life being so much better without her, my brain doesn't get to quite let go.

I don't want to reach out, and I certainly don't want to have any kind of interaction. But I wish I could just make her stop, and leave me alone.

[GuyIncognito]

Haven't posted in a while, but honestly, it's been because I haven't had much to say about BPD-related things. Life has been mostly good, other relationships are mending or growing, and I haven't interacted with her in almost two months, since the last bit of necessary interaction.

She however, still hasn't given up on whatever it is she's trying. She still stalks my reddit account and randomly replies to posts old enough that they don't end up part of any conversation, but it lets her say whatever harassing or insulting or demeaning thing she wants without consequence. Then a week ago, she randomly cc'd me on an e-mail to someone about fostering a dog (with no text in any way addressing me or my inclusion in the message). The next day, after she must have gotten a reply, she forwards me the reply, saying something like "I thought maybe you'd want this dog. I don't know."

I haven't responded to any of her attempts, either online or through e-mail, and she's blocked via every other avenue short of sending me a letter. I have no intention of making further contact. But...I'm just really, really tired of this still being a thing. It's an extra level of frustrating thanks to her specific attacks still being that I am "still the abuser", when I'm doing literally everything I can to have nothing to do with her, while she continues to hound and harass. I guess we all know pretty well now how little the logic or rationality of it are going to make sense to non-BPD folks, but it's still this constant thorn poking me just enough that even with my life being so much better without her, my brain doesn't get to quite let go.

I don't want to reach out, and I certainly don't want to have any kind of interaction. But I wish I could just make her stop, and leave me alone.

[SinisterComplex]

So I am glad to hear you are in a much better place. Congratulations on that. Eventually she will leave you alone. All you can do is go about your business and never respond. The best thing is that you are already doing what is necessary...you are living well. Continue to do so and don't give her any thought. You can only control YOU. You can't worry about what others do or are going to do. I definitely get the frustration though. I still remember when my ex wife showed up on my doorstep randomly after being divorced for 5 years...yeah wasn't too thrilled with that. I had to verbally eviscerate her for her to "Get It" basically. - I do not recommend my course of action to everyone btw.

Oddly enough I did come to find out my ex wife lives in fairy tale land and still paints me out to be the bad guy...as fate would have it she got her hair done by an ex-girlfriend of mine who I've been friends with a long time...she told her that I cheated on her and that is why she will never trust again, etc. LOL. Funny story and goes to show you that yes indeed it is a small world after all. Ha.  . I'll keep my story short right there as to not take away from you my friend. Just relating and letting you know I understand the struggle is real.

Cheers and best wishes to you! 

-SC-