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A 3 Minute Lesson
on Ending Conflict
Communication Skills-
Don't Be Invalidating
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RobertX

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« on: January 20, 2022, 05:01:17 AM »

Just wanted to thank this group for sharing the Alan Fruzzetti video.  Whilst one swallow doesn't make a spring we tried totally changing how we interacted with our son based on Alan's advice regarding validation and empathy.  It had a dramatic difference  - even when our son started to attack.  We need to get much better at this - however we have now seen it in action and it led to a much better, calmer outcome.  We are committed to re-programming how we speak to him although not naive that this is a long journey.  We'll take every bit of positive progress we can get.  Many thanks to this group and to Alan.
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Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders
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« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2022, 07:40:48 AM »

That's really good news RobertX. Hope it keeps working and is the start of a new way of interacting.
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« Reply #2 on: January 23, 2022, 12:03:56 PM »

Can you please share the video?  Thanks!
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« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2022, 12:58:19 PM »

Here you go kimmcat

VIDEO | Family Skills for Families with a BPD person, Alan Fruzzetti

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« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2022, 04:02:00 AM »

Good luck Kimmcat - I was writing to notes to my wife whilst my son was on the phone...helping her to remember to validate and empathise...it was a team effort but really did appear to improve things.  I know that this is a long process but I'll take anything that appears to help. 
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