Diagnosis + Treatment
The Big Picture
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? [ Video ]
Five Dimensions of Human Personality
Think It's BPD but How Can I Know?
DSM Criteria for Personality Disorders
Treatment of BPD [ Video ]
Getting a Loved One Into Therapy
Top 50 Questions Members Ask
Home page
Forum
List of discussion groups
Making a first post
Find last post
Discussion group guidelines
Tips
Romantic relationship in or near breakup
Child (adult or adolescent) with BPD
Sibling or Parent with BPD
Boyfriend/Girlfriend with BPD
Partner or Spouse with BPD
Surviving a Failed Romantic Relationship
Tools
Wisemind
Ending conflict (3 minute lesson)
Listen with Empathy
Don't Be Invalidating
Setting boundaries
On-line CBT
Book reviews
Member workshops
About
Mission and Purpose
Website Policies
Membership Eligibility
Please Donate
April 28, 2024, 02:53:23 PM
Welcome,
Guest
. Please
login
or
register
.
1 Hour
5 Hours
1 Day
1 Week
Forever
Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins:
Kells76
,
Once Removed
,
Turkish
Senior Ambassadors:
Cat Familiar
,
EyesUp
,
SinisterComplex
Help!
Boards
Please Donate
Login to Post
New?--Click here to register
Skills we were never taught
98
A 3 Minute Lesson
on Ending Conflict
Communication Skills-
Don't Be Invalidating
Listen with Empathy -
A Powerful Life Skill
Setting Boundaries
and Setting Limits
BPDFamily.com
>
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
>
Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
> Topic:
Struggling
Pages: [
1
]
Go Down
« previous
next »
Print
Author
Topic: Struggling (Read 484 times)
MomTime
Fewer than 3 Posts
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 2
Struggling
«
on:
April 28, 2022, 07:12:24 PM »
This is my first time posting here. It's not a easy post to write. My 21 y/o daughter was recently diagnosed with BPD (in addition to OCD, anxiety and depression ... and a possible eating disorder). She was harming herself when she was living in residence at university, so we had to move her home a month before the end of her school year, and have her finish her degree at home. She is now preparing to move back to the city where she'd gone to school- 5 hours away- where she will be working for the summer and then doing grad school. She will be living alone for the summer but she will have roommates in the Fall; her closest friends will be in the city. She has shared with me that she's very worried about her unpredictable impulsivity that has increased as we've been preparing for her move. Her doctor is concerned too. She's having her meds adjusted and she has just started with a new therapist. How can I best support my daughter? Is there anything that I should- or shouldn't- do or say, to support her on this journey? Thanks for your support and insight ...
Logged
Our objective
is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to
learn the skills
to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders
Sancho
Ambassador
Offline
Posts: 723
Re: Struggling
«
Reply #1 on:
April 28, 2022, 09:23:30 PM »
Hi Momtime
Transition time is always extra stressful and your dd has many things to deal with. It is really good that she identifies an issue and you seem to have good communication between you.
You probably have this in mind already, but I wonder if a timetable of communication between you would help? Some people set up a plan in which they contact say, morning and evening at a certain time. Then you could work on a plan of dd not acting on impulse until your next contact or next day.
You could break things down further into weeks: what contact for week 1 etc. It might be a possibility that you visit half way through that period when she is on her own?
The meds adjustment might help too - hope so. That would ease your anxiety.
Have to say that with all your dd has to deal with she has done so well - and your support has probably enabled that to happen!
Logged
MomTime
Fewer than 3 Posts
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: Married
Posts: 2
Re: Struggling
«
Reply #2 on:
April 29, 2022, 04:46:25 AM »
Thank you, Sancho, for your suggestion and support. When dd has been away at school, I send her a check-in text in the morning and at bedtime, then I let her determine when she wants to talk. It's not unusual for us to talk at least once or twice - if not more - a day. Your suggestion to have a scheduled chat is a good idea and I'll talk with her about doing that.
She has also reached out for support on a BPD discourse and her peers there have suggested that she get baby locks for cupboards, to lock up items that she may use for self harm; the consensus is that if she can't access the things immediately, she will have time to use her grounding strategies to avoid harming herself.
I know how much she wants - and needs - to be back in the city with her friends, so I can only hope and pray that with the correct combination of therapy and meds, she will be ok. In the meantime, we will continue to take this one baby step at a time...
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?
Pages: [
1
]
Go Up
Print
BPDFamily.com
>
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
>
Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
> Topic:
Struggling
« previous
next »
Jump to:
Please select a destination:
-----------------------------
Help Desk
-----------------------------
===> Open board
-----------------------------
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
-----------------------------
=> Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup
=> Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting
=> Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship
-----------------------------
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
-----------------------------
=> Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
=> Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD
-----------------------------
Community Built Knowledge Base
-----------------------------
=> Library: Psychology questions and answers
=> Library: Tools and skills workshops
=> Library: Book Club, previews and discussions
=> Library: Video, audio, and pdfs
=> Library: Content to critique for possible feature articles
=> Library: BPDFamily research surveys
Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife
Loading...