Wife is wanting to end it

[gaherna3]

Hello,
I recently found this page after finding out my wBPD and exploring how to resolve issues. She went into treatment fairly recently and afterwards we were trying to reconnect. This past weekend we had a discussion and now she is saying she cannot do it anymore and wants us to split. She mentions she is not happy and needs to find herself first. The one distinction with other stories on here is she is not threatening to take anything. We have an 18 month old daughter and she mentions she wants to to co parent as best as we can together.

I do not want to split and am trying to show support and talk with her but she is dead set on needing us to be apart. She blames herself for me not accomplishing goals or having to make sacrifices. She keeps saying she is not good for a me and is a toxic person.

I am madly in love with her and want to best help her put but I am at a loss. Any advice?

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