It's My 28 YO daughter

[Fairyprincess]

Hello-
Just beginning the maize of information. We have been struggling since she was 4 years old.  She made in through school, college and all of it was hard. Now here we are... .she cannot hold a job or relationship and refuses to acknowledge anything is wrong nor does she need meds. ANDSOGNOSIA-
She lives alone in a studio apartment (compliments of us!) and has a very solitary life-to avoid conflict. She was let go from 3 jobs last year. She claims she is looking for a job and nothing is her "Fault"
This has been going on for 6 months.  We demanded she see a counselor, which she did and is useless if she is resistant.
Here is where help is needed;
Counselor notes:  BPD, Bi Polar and we know about ADHD (medicated) and learning issues.
She suggests we look into getting her Social Security, a lawyer and a residential treatment program.  Wow!  We are in Western Florida.  (Moved from Massachusetts)
Where to begin?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi Fairyprincess

 

Welcome to the community, while sorry what brings you here I'm glad you found us. 

Where to begin?  Your DD is resistant to treatment at this time, I'm not clear what the counselor is recommending - your daughter is signed off medically unfit to work - to survive on social security? You get a lawyer to force her into a residential program? At the cost she'd still be resistant.

Look forward to hearing.

WDx

[AdrienBon]

Hi Fairyprincess

 

It is a sad point to hear your story that I can really understand because of mine. But the good point is that she will follow a treatment and that you will find tools here to know how to manage her behavior.
I am in a romantic relationship with a 28 year old woman. Her mother and my girl friend were really close when she was a teenager. Now she is doing her internship far from me in medicine and her mother has less and less contact with her (fear of engulfment or losing her independence I suppose). She is sometimes a hermit too.
The positive is that she is becoming more and more independent. She is experiencing real life without being babying by her mother or I. Your daughter may need to experiment true independence. You should be there just in case she is doing a bad thing (suicide... .), but try to let her the place she wants to have.

hope your the best,

Adrien.