Hi everyone...
I've just read the posts on the following board:
PERSPECTIVES: From idealization to devaluation - why we struggle
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=161524.0I would like to ask all those who have recovered, or on the way to recovery:
how did you resolve your Lonely Child issues? What would be the steps necessary to resolve this?I have identified myself as having this condition. I have always felt lonely, as a child, and worked overtime to get my mother's stamp of approval on everything I did. It's useless. I almost always never get the validation I needed. I don't want to rely on others for their validations anymore.
I'm actually having a conflict (?) with my mother and brother right now, the issue being my staying away from them at the moment to clear my head. They perceive it as me being rebellious, and not fulfilling my duty as a family member *facepalm*.
They ridiculed me when I mentioned the need to be alone at the moment. They implied that my grief over my past relationship should have been gone by now (NC = 6.5 months), and that I should really move on with life. I am, at my own pace. But they perceive me as being weak at the moment.
