Hi:I just want to say that Bill Eddy is one of the nicest people I know. He is not what we think of as "lawer-like." He is extremely compassionate and very into this topic of High-Conflict Personalities. He must have put 100 hours into this project (as well as the accompanying Splitting CD). A HCP may have BPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or just be hard to get along with. Bill does seminars about this topic all over.When I get an email from someone about legal divorce issues, I forward it to Bill and he writes an informative email. He has also written a book for the attorneys of HCPs.

Review by former member, Rain09Man04:

The book was extremely helpful since some of it actually helped me to predict the future and prepare for it. The sections on what information to gather and how to work with your attorney was also great. It was important to know that the family court system will listen to all kinds of emotional claims and to document everything.

At the time I got the book, I had just decided to switch my attorney because he refused to help me assert myself in my case with my exbp, believing that I needed to give in to her demands to make things better and interpreted that me wanting to assert my rights as I wanted to remain in the relationship or that I was trying to get back at her. As a result of him dragging his feet and not doing what I asked of him, it became even a greater uphill battle. He even told my new attorney he thought I wanted to get back with my ex. That was very unprofessional and could have caused damage to my credibility with my new attorney. Good thing my new attorney put little stock in it after clarifying with me.

I couldn't figure out why my attorney was acting this way and was in my opinion working against me. Reading the section that talked about how sometimes the bps are so convincing, your own attorney may turn against you really helped. Just to hear that it happens was calming. As I think more about my old attorney, he had a wife that cheated on him and he was willing to take her back so who knows how his own beliefs clouded his judgement about my situation. He definitely could not hear what I was saying to him. He probably had an affinity for bp-like people who play the victim role well.

It would be helpful to have a list of warning signs to watch out for when it comes to attorneys since one puts their trust and basically their life into the attorney's hands and if they are not doing the job you need them to do, they can cause lots of harm. Examples of other people's stories were very enlightening. I gave a copy to my new attorney as reference just so he would know what I believe I am dealing with. The fact that it was written by an attorney was most valuable. If only more judges, cops, and others who are in a position to ruin good people's lives are required to know this stuff.

I just got this book and am only on page 100 or so. It's fascinating! I haven't read anything yet that will help us, because I'm still in the first section, but I'm looking forward to section 2. The first part reminds me of a psychology textbook, which is cool because I think it's interesting to read about the various personality disorders.

IMHO, well worth the $20!

I got my copy from amazon.com.  It is a new (not used) copy.  Price of book plus shipping was $13.50.  It is WELL worth that!

Outstanding resource!  I reread it today and took notes to share with my attorney tomorrow.  I'm still anxious about what's to come (court?) but feel MUCH more confident!

Thank you!