Husband left in August...

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My Husband left in August after a very rocky 8 months. I caught him "self-medicating" With Xanax and Vicodin. He would admit to self- medicating, but not the extent. I was keeping a pill log on him because he was stealing my medication I needed for my Chronic Cluster Migraines and such. After he left and I reached out to Our Family Doctor thinking it was a drug problem and perhaps some stress from work and things he recently learned from his childhood, He went ballistic. I became the enemy. From that day on... .It's been War. He cut off all money. (I'm on disability). He told me he would destroy my life like I just did his. I couldn't understand where this was all coming from. Then, I started therapy with Our two grown boys. And BOOM!

After some sessions, Our therapist suggested I read some books. I read the first 4 chapters of "Splitting... ." and I thought I heard Angels singing. My life for the last 28 years summed up into the first 4 chapters of a book. I guess I won the Mother load, Borderline Personality AND High functioning Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I'm told we (The boys and I) have dodged a bullet and should be happy. After 28 years of Marriage I just feel lost right now. Not to mention he is making the divorce very painful and acting out and NOT following court orders every time we get one.

[chitowngal1204]

My Husband left in August after a very rocky 8 months. I caught him "self-medicating" With Xanax and Vicodin. He would admit to self- medicating, but not the extent. I was keeping a pill log on him because he was stealing my medication I needed for my Chronic Cluster Migraines and such. After he left and I reached out to Our Family Doctor thinking it was a drug problem and perhaps some stress from work and things he recently learned from his childhood, He went ballistic. I became the enemy. From that day on... .It's been War. He cut off all money. (I'm on disability). He told me he would destroy my life like I just did his. I couldn't understand where this was all coming from. Then, I started therapy with Our two grown boys. And BOOM!

After some sessions, Our therapist suggested I read some books. I read the first 4 chapters of "Splitting... ." and I thought I heard Angels singing. My life for the last 28 years summed up into the first 4 chapters of a book. I guess I won the Mother load, Borderline Personality AND High functioning Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I'm told we (The boys and I) have dodged a bullet and should be happy. After 28 years of Marriage I just feel lost right now. Not to mention he is making the divorce very painful and acting out and NOT following court orders every time we get one.

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Sorry to hear what a painful time this is for you and your children. Feeling lost is completely normal.
Have you read/posted on the family law board? They likely will be able to help you in your situation. Take care of yourselves.