She deleted my pictures on fb.

[vaib85]

I got married last year. we met online and after that we got married. we never lived together because we both were still studying. i am about to finish my studies but my wife started new studies and thing got worst after that she has become a completely different person. No time for me and usage of abusive language even no intimacy at all.

i got frustrated and i really love my wife but i was getting less priority in her life. Her friends, fun time is more important than me. I tried my best and i did know that my wife has psychological issues but until i faced the situation i was not aware of her BPD and i kept myself all the time calm but when she started hurting me then only i reacted in a different way like talking less because i was avoiding fight and i thought she would realize that why my husband is getting distanced and she would try to improve.

In the beginning of our relationship she always used to say that she would improve but my every action is creating a problem even if i don't anything at all. one day i got frustrated and i visited her and said we should seperate but while coming back i realized that i made a mistake and i apologized to her but things are getting worst and she knows that she is hurting me but she says she can't control her feelings.

We hardly meet i went to meet her on valentine's day and on our wedding anniversary. she even did not allow me to hug her or sheke hand. It is really painful for me. I love my wife so much I can't live without her. I am not able to sleep since 3 months but she is keep doing mean things to me even today i saw that she deleted my pictures on fb. I really feel alone and i have very less friends even i cry most of the times when i am alone. please guide me to save my marriage i am reading a lot about BPD but she is not talking to me at all what should i do?

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi vaib85,

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I"m sorry that you have been so hurt by your relationship. I can imagine how difficult it is to maintain a physical connection in a long distance relationship.

Did you have a fight prior to her not talking to you? Has she been under a lot of stress?

Has she done anything like this before?

[Mutt]

Hi vaib85,

 

I’d like to join Tattered Heart and welcome you to the family. I’m sorry that you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage. It sounds like your newlyweds and it’s supposed to be a fun and special period in your marriage. Is she diagnosed with BPD? You probably know that a pwBPD will act out more when they’re going through stressful periods it could be that her new studies was the catalyst for this recent behaviour.