Hey there GOI: I understand. My ex married the guy she was cheating on me with. Someone who I introduced her to and had no boundaries.
And my thoughts for revenge are not so much with my ex, but with him. At times I feel ashamed and disrespected. I feel like I want to ruin him. I want him to suffer. I want revenge. And sadly, the best revenge we can have on our ex and their cheating accomplices…is to live well.
Because in the long run, I know that my ex-friend did me a great great favor. In the triangulation, he thinks he was the resucer of my ex, but in reality he was the rescuer of me. He was my Secret Service Agent who took the bullet for me
I would have never left. I would have lived in misery forever. And that is the God's honest truth.
But the truth is my ex-friend didn't take anything of value. And the only reason it was available was because the fantasy of me and my ex was unsustainable. We were long over before the actual breakup. My exgf and I never had a chance. The Disorder is too powerful in her and is never going to be cured in her. She will always be only a fcked-up three year old in emotions.
And my ex-friend might have had limited respect for me, but he has limited respect for himself. He got mirrored by my ex, and he had no chance. His self-esteem was even lower than mine, and I saw it and knew it. He was toast the minute my ex laid eyes on him. She asked questions about him and I could see the Disorder at work. It's so Fcked-UP.
And she fled from me to him because the Disorder knew that my ex-friend was more susceptible than me, and that the poor sap would actually marry the psycho, evil, cheating, sociopathic, potential middle-of-night penis castrating female zombie axe murderer.
Yeah, that's what you get for disrespecting on me. You should that learn when you want to steal something, and you find that the owners are happy to give it away, maybe the shiny object was dog crap in tin foil. Karma's a B___, Isn't It !
And as a result, he has as a long as it takes for a divorce and recovery to figure out that all he did was waste a life trying to create a marriage where real connection impossible. Impossible. And if he stays married, it's not because the fantasy came true. It's because he is so suppressed that he doesn't know what he wants in terms of love and connection. I always knew he is better for my ex than I was. I figure out that he was the replacement, and I knew that they would end up getting married.
But in the end, there's no way that my exgfwBPD can do anything but despise her partner. The Disorder always wins. Poor Schmuck, I almost feel sorry for him.
My odds for their success:
Stay together in abject misery and hatred - 3:1
Divorce before one year – 5:1
Divorce before ten years – 2:1
Murder/Suicide – 8:1
Happily Married - 1,000,000,000,000:1
They have no chance at happiness. No Chance. Find any real success stories here. I don't believe they really exist. At best it's just quiet contempt, hatred and abuse. You know how your ex almost killed your soul. You know how it drained you. What do you have to show for all the time and effort into your ex? The same that we all have…Nothing! And you have read about those married for the long-term. They are physically and mentally ill from the stress. And all regret, except for the kids, wasting a life in a loveless interaction.
As a AJ Mahari, someone with great expertise states: BPD and Happiness clash…... They just don't go together.
You need to buy your ex-friend a brand new sports car as a thank you gift, and so that he has the option of driving it of a cliff if it comes to that.
