Two things I've learned:
1. Trying to argue with him is fruitless. It's an ever escalating nasty battle. There is never any resolution.
2. Trying to explain to him how I feel. How I've been hurt. He cant hear it. Won't hear it. Responds with a list of my failings.
Your email reminded me of both of those things.
WOW Emelie Emelie. That really hit home.
Do you mean trying to argue?... .or intensive discussion looking for a resolution?.
I believe my BPDgf ears are working. I know what comes out of my mouth. I KNOW she can hear it. What is it?. Derails the conversation with "something" I've done.
The first time she did this I couldn't believe what was actually happening (little knowledge of BPD at this point) and I was gobsmacked.