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« on: November 12, 2014, 11:16:18 AM »

It's been since the 10th of October since we last spoke, she now has a replacement someone who she cheated with a few years ago...

I should be happy to have lost her, getting my life back and my dignity... But I'm not even a bit...

Every day passes by to slowly, each day I think about her and each day hurts...

We broke up in August 10th after a relationship that lasted 3 years and a couple of weeks...

I want to get rid of all my emotions and memories, I want to forget, I don't want her to love me anymore (she doesn't love me but I want to and I don't want to want that)

How long does it take? Will I hear from her again? Ever or never?
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« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2014, 12:11:00 PM »

It's been since the 10th of October since we last spoke, she now has a replacement someone who she cheated with a few years ago...

I should be happy to have lost her, getting my life back and my dignity... But I'm not even a bit...

Every day passes by to slowly, each day I think about her and each day hurts...

We broke up in August 10th after a relationship that lasted 3 years and a couple of weeks...

I want to get rid of all my emotions and memories, I want to forget, I don't want her to love me anymore (she doesn't love me but I want to and I don't want to want that)

How long does it take? Will I hear from her again? Ever or never?

Some people hear from their exes, some do not.  Your ex has a replacement so it seems as though you no longer serve any purpose to her.  I am willing to bet that once things start to deteriorate she will reach out... .unless she has another replacement lined up.  As for healing there is no time limit my from.  It gets worse before it gets better.  One minute you think you are making progress and the next you are caught in the hell storm.  There is different stages of grief but there is no set time that  you spend in each one. I often experience 3-4 different stages at once. 

The main thing is you recognize you are grieving.  Hang in there and work through it.  Everyday you are one step closer to healing.
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