Mutt, I'm sure that's the case but I have total NC in media, calls, texts or emails. All I get it the info from close friends who know the facts.
I understand. I used to get triggered when family and friends would relay personal info on her life "Hey Mutt, I just ran into ex today and the new bf etc etc"
I politely told them "I'd appreciated it if you didn't give me info or talk about ex. I hope you understand, thanks."
It's over. I don't need to know what she's up to or have discussions about her. She's no longer a part of my life.
I had to set boundaries with family / friends parallel to low contact. Anything that helped me heal and minimize the triggers helped. I hope that helps.