Hi rise_up,
Ooo yea, it's pretty easy to get struck by paralysis of analysis. I'm glad things have calmed down some!
Here's a link to "Boundaries- Living our Values":
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61684.0Might shine some light on what happened yesterday.
Poke around the links on the site, there's a lot of good info available on just what you've mentioned, i.e, How to take care of yourself and the Victim triangle.
And keep posting, too!