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Reply #30 on:
March 07, 2011, 12:28:54 AM »
Quote from: needPeace on March 07, 2011, 12:01:30 AM
Please just give me one more chance. I promise this time it will be different
I love that one too!
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hereforhealing
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March 07, 2011, 02:17:03 AM »
- "I'll always love you"
- "I'll never love anyone as much as I love you, even if I marry someone else"
- "Why do you even love me?"
- "You don't love me, you're just obsessed with me"
- "I never wanted to be with anyone else" (cheated/lied about 3 guys that I know about)
- "You're always mad at me. If you could just not be mad for even a week I'd want to be together with you"
- "I never said we could never make love again" (after breaking up completely)
- "I'd still want to date you if you could handle it"
- "You know I would never have [been with someone else] if we were in a REAL relationship"
- "You're my best friend"
- "Even fighting with you makes me feel close to you"
- "I need you"
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March 08, 2011, 08:45:19 PM »
I just remembered these
"Why don't you just grow a pair of balls and leave me already!"
"We created an emotional bond that can never be broken"
"Goodbye forever" (x2) Guess forever means 2 month intervals
"You were supposed to be my night in shining armor"
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March 08, 2011, 09:28:37 PM »
"You don't understand me".
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Matyr
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Re: Quotes From Your BPD During The End
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March 08, 2011, 09:49:10 PM »
Accused of having multiple affairs with different woman, then in the same breath being accused of being gay... .LMAO
I'm not crazy... .your the one that's borderline... .classic !
Your the best thing that's ever happened to me... .I could replace you in a heart beat
No one understands me like you... .you never listen to a word I say
Jeez, I could go on & on
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chiha
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March 08, 2011, 10:09:30 PM »
"You never loved me"
"You did nothing but use me and play with my heart"
"I will never let you go, we will always be connected"
"All you did was use me for your own needs"
"Please just stay in my life, even if we are not together"
"You are nothing but a liar and my heart is stone cold now"
"Please come over, I just want to see you"
"Things that bother most people like seeing someone in pain or death just don't really bother me"
"The same rules of the real world do not belong to me because I am not like everyone else"
"What is strange is I don't care about all those other people it has always been just you" (yeah right )
Mind you these are just the tip of the iceburg. It all depended on the day, what suited his needs and how he was feeling at that given time. All of it was nothing but lies and a way to suck me in to the dysfunction. I just cannot believe I was stuck in this as long as I was and beat MYSELF up for HIS emotions. What a sad waste of time.
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March 08, 2011, 10:39:58 PM »
Mine was more like minimizing that she was leaving as if I should not have any feelings or be sad.
"You should be jumping up and down I have a job!"
"We only saw each other 3 hours a week"
"YOu were always at work or school!"
"Remember you didn't like it when I would always do things with my friends"
" I don't want to fight, every time I come into town you are telling me how to feel, to be sad or to this or to that, I just want to live life to the fullest and be happy" (like being with me brought her down or caused all her employment problems)
"I dont' live well with others, I don't sleep well with others, I do best when I make my own decisions and if I have to consider others I am a dick"
"Quit crying , you're always crying"
Raging "I do love you I do miss you, but I have a job! Why do you always think I'm yelling at you! Well then don't call me".
I tell you this stuff made me feel like I had BPD, like I was somehow out of line for being sad about her relocating... .
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Re: Quotes From Your BPD During The End
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March 08, 2011, 11:21:15 PM »
"I'm never going to change" "If you can't handle it, I understand. I could never be with someone like me"
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Quote from: OverBoard on March 05, 2011, 02:05:14 PM
-YOU stole MY identity!
I was told I was an "essence thief" on several occasions
If he handed his "essence" to me on a plate I'd have said "keep it!"
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Re: Quotes From Your BPD During The End
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March 08, 2011, 11:35:02 PM »
Quote from: porcelaindoll118 on March 06, 2011, 11:16:30 PM
"No one will ever love you like I did"
Hope not!
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Re: Quotes From Your BPD During The End
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March 09, 2011, 05:59:04 AM »
I got :
You are a psycho ?
You are my bestest friend in the world
You are not a man
I will always miss you
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March 09, 2011, 06:31:24 AM »
"We would have been alright if you just accepted that I'm hard and sarcastic instead of getting angry at me"
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March 09, 2011, 11:19:59 AM »
" I am going to go out and find someone to love me for me"
In hindsight, please define "Me"... .oh and be afraid... .be very afraid... .
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March 09, 2011, 11:22:16 AM »
Excerpt
" I am going to go out and find someone to love me for me"
That's one of the silliest things they say. Who else would anyone love them for, the next door neighbor, the mailman? Who?
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March 09, 2011, 11:22:41 AM »
"If I got pregnant things could have been different"
Yeah I agree! 100 times worse!
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March 09, 2011, 01:58:43 PM »
In a moment of clarity--while in the hospital recovering from whiplash (she said broken neck ) from an accident caused by her reckless driving she said: "I just need to be alone so I stop hurting people"
Those words will forever be etched in my mind. In a lucid moment she knew her compulsion to use people and the damage she leaves behind.
Wonder what will become of her... .
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Re: Quotes From Your BPD During The End
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March 09, 2011, 04:14:41 PM »
Quote from: It'sAboutTime on March 09, 2011, 11:22:16 AM
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" I am going to go out and find someone to love me for me"
That's one of the silliest things they say. Who else would anyone love them for, the next door neighbor, the mailman? Who?
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March 17, 2011, 05:32:54 PM »
After 6 1/2 yrs... .3 break-ups-2 recycles and a month since I finally said goodbye... .she arrives on my doorstep wasted drunk on her 40th b/day and needs to stay the night because she feels
safe
with me. I let her in... .make her a bed (
not in mine!
) and tell our son that momma is sick and will be OK. Moaning and crying about not being loved... .not liked/loved... .how she suffers so much and finally passes out.
Wake up next morning and she's next to me in my bed. WTF, right?
The first time in 6 yrs... I finally get a
"light bulb"
moment and hear everything I suspected over 6 yrs... as she finally opens up to me.
I AM/I FEEL
:
Lost-empty-feel hollow-depressed-moody-fearful I will end up alone-dont know how to love-dont know how to commit... .etc etc.
Of course I opened my heart again. Then she told me that I am hot. Sexy. Her knight in shining armor. Best love she ever has had. We have a future together... .but right now I need to be 40... .free and kick up my heels... call it a sabbatical and a mid-life crisis.
(
BTW
... .this is 1 yr to the week that she dumped me... 2 wks later seduces the married man and says the same exact --- I need a break to work on myself... Love you not in love)
But the last word was... .
I still love you... .but not in love with you
and
need this time apart to work on myself
.
That's why I left you.
WTF
...
I left you a month ago and you just got done telling me that you still loved me.
And then 2 days later meets a new guy that has been "sweet" on her for awhile and says... .we might fool around a bit... but nothing serious. Besides... .you should go meet a new girl... it will be great for your self-esteem. Thanks for being so sweet. See you soon and takes our son with her back home 2 hrs away.
PEOPLE-
You can't be friends... .because like the last break up... she found a new guy 2 wks later... .put me in friendzone and proceeded to tell me all about the new sex... .how she didn't even like him (married & a cheater) and how that it would not even work out and then says... .I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM. He's going to leave his wife for me and I will raise our children.
RUN -> HIDE -> email and texts if there are kids -> it's all business from here on out. No sympathy... BOUNDARIES!
If you reciprocate a friendship... you will find yourself in bed with her... .seduced... only to hear her problems and no concern at all of yours. Then she/he leaves and you are back to square one all over again. This just happened to me and now know. From here on out I am
INSANE
to take her back.
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March 17, 2011, 05:38:20 PM »
I was told I needed time to heal after my dad died, soo... .that excused her cheating, lying, emotional abuse, and manipulation or something
You'd think she would have wanted to be there for me as my best friend and the person she loved more than her husband who was murdered.
There is no explaining it because it's not rational. if you try to rationalize it, it just makes you crazy too.
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March 17, 2011, 05:52:22 PM »
"I new from the start I was either going to love you or hate you"
classic BPD.
"I always put ppl on a pedestal so high, they have no chance"
"Our breakup was not X's fault <her ex she recycled the next day>, it was yours! you are looking for excueses
to escape responsibility"
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March 17, 2011, 06:05:53 PM »
Here's a good one for you.
I caught someone breaking into my car last year. Gave chase... he had my laptop and I was barefoot and faster than him. Made it to the street... .tackled him and the computer went flying. Next I know... get away car... guy gets in and I have a stabwound to the chest... lacerated arm and a 5 inch deep hole under the buttocks. Of course I survived. Im here, right? It was a hunting knife and I have luck of the Irish or 8 more lives.
Well... as I am on a gurney... drove myself to hospital... told I will have PTSD and that I was 2 arteries close to dying and a lucky SOB. I muster up the strength to say... please call my wife and tell her what happened and that I am ok and off to surgery.
I was released that day and I had to beg & prove that I could walk without crutches... .I hobbled in on those crutches to pay our mortgage the next... .and I drove the 2 hrs to go visit her & my son (separated at this point).
I get there and she tells me I manifested this for all the time I have been mean to her.
The next day... .I retrieve my voice mails... .I'ts her... .on the phone... .screaming at me for getting hurt and for overlooking the mortgage payment. Irony is... .she is next to me when I am listening and then says... .I was scared and
you didnt call me. Ahhhhh... yes you are right... .I couldnt because I was in a trauma ward but the nurse called for me.
What was it?
Totally messed up sick reaction to me "abandoning" her. It took spiritual work to get past the PTSD and
this forum to realize that this is indicative to their inability to have compassion and lack of understanding. That's what a 5 year old says. And thats how old she was when her mom died. 5 yrs old. Rest my case.
Sad part... .leaving her hurt more than being stabbed 3 times. I can't look back and neither should we, right?
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March 17, 2011, 06:15:43 PM »
I got:-
I'm not telling you to f--- off, there is no-one else, I need time on my own... .
You don't love me
I've got voices in my head
YOU LEFT ME
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Quote from: alchemist on March 17, 2011, 06:05:53 PM
Sad part... .leaving her hurt more than being stabbed 3 times. I can't look back and neither should we, right?
That is one hell of a story, Alchemist. And as much as it hurts, no, you can't look back. Gotta walk away from the explosion like they do in the movies. I know about the mental pain. I lost my father right before Christmas when I was 13 and remember opening presents he got me on Christmas day with him gone. It was so traumatizing that I was just numb for weeks. But this BPD sht--it has thrown me for a loop. That's why I made this particular thread about the "things they say at the end" because to me, it is the most hurtful. They spend a good amount of time making you believe that they are your "soulmate" and then backhand you with "You never loved me" and then soon after, you find out you've been replaced in a heartbeat.
At least I knew my father loved me and his leaving was out of his control. It hurt but it made sense. And I could grasp that. This BPD has my brain working overdrive because I keep trying to project rationality to her behavior (it's impossible). Leaves the wounds open a lot longer than they need to be.
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Oh
Brother!
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doubtful's xgf said this... .
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"I always put ppl on a pedestal so high, they have no chance"
When I read that quote from her, I stopped for a moment to think about it. Hadn't both of us put each other on a pedestal? I mean we had very high expectations, so did they. We weren't disordered as they were, so sustaining regarding each other with such lofty expectations is nearly impossible for either of us. If we were both perfect, which is not possible, it would have been a real expectation. Accepting the fact that we aren't perfect is rational. But, they aren't rational, so when the cracks start to show, they bail out emotionally where we don't waiver from love. It's not perfect anymore so they let it go. It's not perfect and we stay because we love them.
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omg I just re-read that post of mine and I sound like a nutbag over-analyzing and obsessing. sorry.
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March 17, 2011, 09:39:05 PM »
Love the term nut bag, I am fond of dip weed and wack job when looking at myself
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Another gem:
As she says... .I am not in love with you... .but love you and want an open relationship. A break.
I say... yeah... think I need to sleep on that one.
Next morning... I can't go there with you... .so I guess you are dumping me, no?
Well... I have a crush on this new guy and want to check this out.
Hmmm... ok ... .can't stop you, can I?
Meanwhile I am crushed.
A week later... .on the phone to me. I have a new boyfriend... .do you think it's ok to sleep with him? Do I have your approval... .blessing.
Sure. Go for it. Why not... .he's married and you already seduced him, no? What does his wife have to say about it?
She doesn't know about us.
6 months later... recycle #2 . I ask... why did you tell me you wanted to sleep with this guy?
Well... .I wanted you to know that it was really over. See if you could still be my friend.
I guess I can't.
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March 17, 2011, 10:26:35 PM »
Maybe I'm just mentally blocking it all out, but my exBPDgf didn't say any of the things you guys mention at the end of our relationship (i.e., this past week).
I was completely straight-forward with her as to why I need to have no contact with her, and while she was hurt by this fact, the most demeaning thing I can think of her saying during our final fights is "grow up."
Of course... .she just physically abused me at the tail-end of everything, so maybe these things didn't need to be said and any words she could have spewed at me morphed into physicality.
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March 18, 2011, 07:06:03 AM »
"You just used me for sex, you always wanted sex" (when in fact the last month we had only had sex twice)
"You can't be friends, you will always want me" (when she found out I had gone to the movies with another woman, when we were supposed to be friends)
"Yes. EVERYTHING is your fault. I always loved you. Perhaps in the future you could truly love someone else instead of yourself"
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