Hang in there,
enough abuse. I know how stressful the holidays can be.
My therapist states BPD's fear abandonment. If they fear apandoment why do they behave to the ones closest to them in a way you have no choice but to abandon them? I can understand most things I read and understand the pathology of the illness but I don't understand the abandonment ? thanks
Many people with BPD don't realize how disruptive their behavior is... .there are some people who are self-aware enough to recognize how their behavior affects others, though. The ones who aren't self-aware simply don't see how they push people away. People with NPD traits may think that everyone else is "wrong." At the root, though, is that fear of abandonment, and for some people with BPD, they expect people to abandon them and therefore the pwBPD pushes people away. It's a "I'm going to leave you before you leave me," mentality.
I hope that you do find some joy and happiness on Christmas.