Did I miss something?

[Depression = 72% of members]

I called my high functioning NBPD "mother" two days ago. Her tone was really chilly. I ran through the whole list of what would be going on and who would be here Christmas eve, Christmas day and the day after when we are celebrating a relatives graduation.  She acted as if I was telling her my out of town daughter would not be around either of the first two days. I repeated she will be here all day and evening and most of the next day.  Mother replied "well, I'm going to ride with GC and come on the day after Christmas."    WTH?  First of all I am thrilled that she is not coming but it was like I was reading a book and skipped a chapter.  Why the sudden lack of interest in seeing her grandchildren and great grandchildren on Christmas?  Is this a new game?  Is she going gambling as she has done on other major family holidays?  Will it never end?  Even when I am going to have a lovely holiday without her sitting her sulking or making hateful remarks as she did on Thanksgiving she still manages to tie my mind in knots trying to figure out what she is up to.  Did you notice how the only time she will bother coming is when golden child will be here?  Um hmmmmmm same dance, different tune.

[nevermore]

I called my high functioning NBPD "mother" two days ago. Her tone was really chilly. I ran through the whole list of what would be going on and who would be here Christmas eve, Christmas day and the day after when we are celebrating a relatives graduation.  She acted as if I was telling her my out of town daughter would not be around either of the first two days. I repeated she will be here all day and evening and most of the next day.  Mother replied "well, I'm going to ride with GC and come on the day after Christmas."    WTH?  First of all I am thrilled that she is not coming but it was like I was reading a book and skipped a chapter.  Why the sudden lack of interest in seeing her grandchildren and great grandchildren on Christmas?  Is this a new game?  Is she going gambling as she has done on other major family holidays?  Will it never end?  Even when I am going to have a lovely holiday without her sitting her sulking or making hateful remarks as she did on Thanksgiving she still manages to tie my mind in knots trying to figure out what she is up to.  Did you notice how the only time she will bother coming is when golden child will be here?  Um hmmmmmm same dance, different tune.

[Sitara]

I feel for you nevermore.  The most frustrating part for me of dealing with my uBPD mom is never knowing what to expect.  I never knew what mood she would be in.  She could respond to the same situation with completely unpredictable different ways.  Hopefully you'll be able to better enjoy Christmas without her there.