He "says" he wants out. If this is true, help me understand his remaining presence. (or did I miss the post about you chaining him to yourself?)
If this is not true, then help me understand the reasons such things come out of his mouth.
What are the implications for each of the "pathways to truth" above?
The kid thing: Isn't it important to model healthy behavior in front of your children? Is it fair to say "more important"? There is massive wisdom in the words you used describing that your children might see these things as "normal" or "ok".