Avoiding Personal questions from BPD MOM and BPD MIL

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Thanks! I hope he will be ok. The biggest risk is a relapse with addiction. He was a very heavy alcoholic who could not stop drinking until he was passed out for weeks on end and would go on benders and due to back surgery he was put on pain meds and a doctor kept prescribing them so he was addicted to pain medication to the point he just screamed and didn't get out of bed literally for a year. He would snort them too. His mom has encouraged all of these addictions and has provided him these substances at times to keep him under her roof. I think he will be ok though. He knows the dangers and does not want to be here. I know if he cancels his plane ticket he has relapsed in some way in which case I plan on contacting his father to help get him help and out of the situation. She will not become physically abusive like my mom . with him but tell him details of her sex life and her body, guilt trips, stories about how bad his father, tell him he should leave me which she is currently doing. The past 4 years here every time I'm alone with her she tells me he is just like his father and I should leave him. So yeah we have both had enough. I don't know a firm nice way to say please take care but don't contact me. I'm scared of her and don't know what she is capable of. I just want to get her out of my life as smoothly as possible. I guess thats why I'm asking here bc I know others have gone nc with the pbd person in their life and i'm curious with what they said. With my own Mom in the past I have just cut her off when her behavior got bad and she got the idea I was not talking to her.   

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Thanks! I hope he will be ok. The biggest risk is a relapse with addiction. He was a very heavy alcoholic who could not stop drinking until he was passed out for weeks on end and would go on benders and due to back surgery he was put on pain meds and a doctor kept prescribing them so he was addicted to pain medication to the point he just screamed and didn't get out of bed literally for a year. He would snort them too. His mom has encouraged all of these addictions and has provided him these substances at times to keep him under her roof. I think he will be ok though. He knows the dangers and does not want to be here. I know if he cancels his plane ticket he has relapsed in some way in which case I plan on contacting his father to help get him help and out of the situation. She will not become physically abusive like my mom . with him but tell him details of her sex life and her body, guilt trips, stories about how bad his father, tell him he should leave me which she is currently doing. The past 4 years here every time I'm alone with her she tells me he is just like his father and I should leave him. So yeah we have both had enough. I don't know a firm nice way to say please take care but don't contact me. I'm scared of her and don't know what she is capable of. I just want to get her out of my life as smoothly as possible. I guess thats why I'm asking here bc I know others have gone nc with the pbd person in their life and i'm curious with what they said. With my own Mom in the past I have just cut her off when her behavior got bad and she got the idea I was not talking to her.   

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