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Does anyone have suggestions or advice about someone who acknowledges that they need to see a counselor/therapist, but do nothing to move in that direction? We have had the "this is integral and non-negotiable" conversation, but still no forward movement, active delay and deflection in this regard.
What is the line there? Is there one?
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I think that this is a very good question. Upon each and every recycle, mine would offer without my prompting, 'I need to see someone" and never did. Hindsight being what it is, it was an indication that the motivation for the b/u in the first place was due to something internally that was out of her control and horrified by it.
The only thing that every happened was the entire episode was swept under the rug and forgotten about... .until the next recycle.
Like you I am curious: why, after they acknowledge that their is a problem, that they don't act upon it?
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My issue is also evolving into that I am the problem. Before it was, "I am difficult, I am hard to be around, I have issues that need work."
Now, it is, "You are the problem. You are miserable because you can't deal with me, you are miserable because you, you, you, you... ."
So I am struggling. I am unwilling to be someone other than me, but who I am makes BP so angry and insecure. Any issue that needs to be addressed gets taken on like it is the person that I am struggling with.
Help and counseling is the only answer, and there is not momentum, no forward movement, and so no hope of change. So what do I do?
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It would look like you have very few options other than to signal your intent to leave or leave altogether. Unfortunately.
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