hi

[incadove]

Hey I come and go here a lot, I guess when things are fine I'm not here, and then when I am feeling emotion I come here because I know people will understand.  Glad this community exists.

I just want to say that I really resonate with what people say about other families not understanding.  I do have lots of good memories and things but also a lot of pain and knowing I've done things wrong - its not just FOG, I really did things wrong - I tried my best at the time, but because I didn't learn enough or get support I really did make bad mistakes that harmed my family.  Its ok, I don't need sympathy for that, its just a fact. I also am trying to do the right things going forward and be open and admit to the things I did do wrong.  And I did make a lot of positive efforts as well.  I just want to be radically honest myself.

It helps to be in a community where we can radically accept ourselves and our children with all their faults and just do what we can now, and not have to put on some kind of front.  I am proud of things my kids do and also sad about missing opportunities that could have been much better, and of the pain they carry.  And now trying to learn and grow and maybe support others with the kind of team I wish I'd had.

That's all, just wanted to express it in a place people would understand.  thanks.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[pursuingJoy]

incadove, just want to say thanks for being real. I appreciate your pragmatic, fearless transparency.