yes I want to be stronger and learn all there is to cope up with his issues.
that is a very commendable trait to have.
welcome to the group.
can you suggest something to read?
there are lots of books to read. look on the library section of this site as it will give you a selection to choose from to start with. I would also add books on building self-esteem as you will need to have a very strong sense of self if you are going to stay in this relationship.
he says that I have to change in order to be with him and compromise cause he won't.
we can only change ourselves. we can not change them. they have to do this. unfortunately, the first step for them to change is their realizing they have a problem and
wanting help. If they don't want it, they won't change no matter how long/hard we try. It doesn't matter how much you change to try to satisfy him, he will never be happy-this is based on over a decade of trying to be a better person for my BPD-didn't work-he just complained more and more about all the ways I needed to be better for him.
It is also very common for a pwBPD to blame the other person for everything that goes wrong in their lives-there is nothing you can do to change this. As you read up and become more knowledgeable on the condition you will realize this is part of how they operate. They will blame, project, demean, rage, belittle, insult, complain, be verbally and some are physically abusive-this is all part of them.
What can I do for him to trust me with his love?
There is nothing that you can do to make him "feel" and "trust" you. These are feelings that each person develops within themselves and can't be created from external factors. If he does trust you with his feelings, this won't get him to want to change either.
Start off with some of the books recommended. You can buy them, go to the library, download them. that is probably the best place to start and as you read, keep writing and asking questions as you go. we've been there, seen that, tried it all, may even have some pointers for you.
Stay safe.