At this point, I feel more and more that I want to separate. Each time we talk about it I end up feeling terrible. He says things like,
How can I do this to him? It's not fair because he agreed to therapy, because he wouldn't be around the kids, because he has changed, etc.
Hey rsychk05, Beware of F-O-G (fear, obligation and guilt), which those w/BPD use to manipulate. They are experts at it. I should know, because I was quite susceptible to those pressures from my BPDxW. I think it's normal to reach a Breaking Point, which in my view is almost inevitable in a long-term r/s with a pwBPD. It's exhausting to walk through a mine field everyday. Eventually I used up all of my resources (emotional, financial and physical) and had nothing left in the tank. By that point, I lacked the strength to leave, but fortunately some kind friends and a family member intervened and helped me to make the break. Otherwise, I would probably have destroyed myself. That may sound melodramatic to someone unfamiliar with BPD, yet you know what I'm talking about.
LuckyJim