what does it mean?

[radoe]

wants to go to church suddenly

(still does not want to wear wedding rings)
(still looks and act profoundly sad at home around me and the boys)
(still refuses to see Psychologist)
(started to read love notes again in the morning)
(started to eat chocolates hidden around the house)
(went to dr. due to crippling pain)

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[Sandb2015]

Hello Fatherpeace,

Does she want to go together? Are you hopeful?

[radoe]

yes she wants to go together

My hope is high

My mind and body are tired

[WileyCoyote]

Nothing... .except what it means to her.

In other words, it means she is at the very least depressed and needs professional help.  You can't help.  Hopefully SHE will find her way there.
All you can do is be compassionate about her pain, but remember it is not yours.

How about YOU?  How are you doing?  Have people outside your relationship you can talk to?  A therapist of your own?

[radoe]

I have a psychologist therapist,
She started to see him too but quit

We also have a psychologist marriage counselor, that I saw last time by myself
I was complaining to my sister and some of my friends but the marriage psychologist says that is not good, because my friends with have resentment towards her when the marriage improves.

So I found this site.

I am hanging in there.

She wants to die, and people that want to die don't live very long.
The doctor noted a while back that she is malnourished, (really thin)

[Sandb2015]

Fatherpeace,

She is reaching out.  Do you have what you need (tools) to proceed?  You need them for you and her.  You need a further plan if you have the hope.  I feel good about your hope.

This is good news it seems, how do you feel about it?  Baby steps... .

[radoe]

I feel good

going home

[Sandb2015]

I've thought about the resentment, confusion and anger that may linger in the extended family circle, that should not really effect the outcome of your hopes and goals.

Hope is beautiful , it's not a means to help, it may just give you what you need to see clearly.

[WileyCoyote]

I'm glad you are finding support and are talking to some more knowledgeable people.  Good for you on working on yourself!
The best thing you can do for your wife is to find your own happiness and share it with her.  You can't make her happy.  I wish it was like in the movies.