Went back in LOL

[almosthadme]

Got a call from My exBPDgf with some threats attached so I had to address them.I went and spent a couple hours with her which went very well.We agreed we would give it another go(stupid me). Then I check up on her and she is on a dating site and logging in.So I confronted her and what do you know it's my fault .I let her down so many times before she needs keep her options open, it would be foolish to count on me.So I confronted her and ended it once again.The lesson learned is that pwBPD seem to all follow the same pattern and it's always your fault.I love this woman very much but it's time to move on.It's been over for quite some time and I knew this was a trap so im doing just fine.Just wanted to share another fail story.

[Kallor74]

Then I check up on her and she is on a dating site and logging in.So I confronted her and what do you know it's my fault .I let her down so many times before she needs keep her options open, it would be foolish to count on me.

... . sorry man i'm not laughing at you its just they really have some balls on them.  Unbelievable.  You're better off brother. 

[Lucky Jim]

Hey almosthadme, Be grateful that it was a brief recycle.  Some of us (read: me) have spent years in recycle mode.  Yet you seem to have cracked the BPD code at a much earlier stage than I did.  Good for you!  Lucky Jim

[Perfidy]

I got some excellent advice from a senior member on this forum. Let them grieve.

[Fool for Love]

When my gf cheated on me... she said it was because we had a fight and I pushed her away ... I actually thought that was a good reason... What the heck was I thinking ... . they always play the victim ... never take responsibility ... . Even if 2 people get into a argument ... That is no justification.

[almosthadme]

Thanks guys,yeah I figured it out a while back but damn she is just a solid 9 drop dead gorgeous! I will regroup and and move on.Im sure she will make another attempt but it's over.In all honestly it's laughable because I would have given her anything all she had to do was prove she loved me and she failed.


She never to responsibility for a damn thing and I mean never.It was always somebody else's fault.Speaking of pushing away she said I pushed her away.Actually everything she is, she made out to be me,it was like What the heck? Im far from perfect but at least I can admit it.

[Lucky Jim]

Actually everything she is, she made out to be me,it was like What the heck?

That's called projection, and pwBPD are extremely good at it.  Hang in there, LJ

[nownotsure]

We agreed we would give it another go(stupid me). Then I check up on her and she is on a dating site and logging in.So I confronted her and what do you know it's my fault .I let her down so many times before she needs keep her options open, it would be foolish to count on me.

Sorry, but I had to laugh when I read that part ... . It really is all about them.

You seem to be taking the whole thing in stride. Good for you!

[almosthadme]

Yeah Im good,It helps to know what your dealing with and I can predict her next move.We just had it out once again with her insulting me as she usually does .Im over it going NC as of today she is just way to crazy and I get im not going to save her.

Projection-I knew there was a name for it,thanks.