Secret drinking and how to deal

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I’ll give it a try.

“Babe, I need to talk to you about some things that have been worrying me. We’ve talked about your drinking and the effect it’s having. I know you got rid of the wine last year, but I know you’ve been bringing it back into the house and hiding it. There’s been drinking and driving.
Honestly, this terrifies me. I’m so afraid that I’ll get a knock on the door or a phone call that you’ve been hurt or killed — or done that to someone else. Or that you’ll go upstairs and come back down as someone else.
I feel like I’m constantly on edge, worried that you’re going to drink and have an episode where you’re going to black out or rage at me. I don’t feel safe in my home. I feel like I can’t believe what you tell me because I never know if it’s real or from one of your blackouts.
These things damage our relationship and they’re causing me a lot of pain and stress. From what you’ve told me, it hurts you too.
I’ve done some checking. There are treatment centers and therapists who specialize in alcohol issues. Some of them are free. There are different options and I’ll help you find one that’s a good fit. But it’s something that really needs to happen.
I need to know that you’re willing to commit to work on this if I commit to helping you.

[Ozzie101]

I’ll give it a try.

“Babe, I need to talk to you about some things that have been worrying me. We’ve talked about your drinking and the effect it’s having. I know you got rid of the wine last year, but I know you’ve been bringing it back into the house and hiding it. There’s been drinking and driving.
Honestly, this terrifies me. I’m so afraid that I’ll get a knock on the door or a phone call that you’ve been hurt or killed — or done that to someone else. Or that you’ll go upstairs and come back down as someone else.
I feel like I’m constantly on edge, worried that you’re going to drink and have an episode where you’re going to black out or rage at me. I don’t feel safe in my home. I feel like I can’t believe what you tell me because I never know if it’s real or from one of your blackouts.
These things damage our relationship and they’re causing me a lot of pain and stress. From what you’ve told me, it hurts you too.
I’ve done some checking. There are treatment centers and therapists who specialize in alcohol issues. Some of them are free. There are different options and I’ll help you find one that’s a good fit. But it’s something that really needs to happen.
I need to know that you’re willing to commit to work on this if I commit to helping you.