She keeps attacking me verbally because I do not make her happy.
I tell her the same thing...I can not fill this giant hole inside of you. She insists I can solve all her problems...I am like...am i doomed to live this nightmare forever.
Hi, I agree with LongRanger307 that this is rather common. In people with BPD, and in other people with poor emotional skills, like those that struggle with co-dependency – and I count myself among them. I used to look to others to make me feel happy and loved.
So can you make her happy? The questions, although understandable, is missing the point that pwBPD (people with BPD) are struggling with deep-seated issues of low self-worth and a lacking sens of self, and tend to look to external sources to mend this. Not on purpose, but rather subconsciously. But external sources can never mend this, only looking inwards will do this. So in that sense, no you can't make her happy.
Something you can do, though, is work on the tools and skills we have here on the site. They will help ease tensions and lower the temperature. And in that sense 'make her happy'. And they will help you too, and give you space to breath.