First experience with residential

[deardaughter]

Hello, this is my first post in this forum.

My 17 yo DD was diagnosed BPD traits her first time inpatient 4 years ago after a suicide attempt. Four years later, 3 overdoses, 2 inpatient, 1 partial hosp., DBT, group therapy, family therapy, CBT and meds, and she is now in residential for the first time. She was turned down by two places - one for violent fantasies and one due to substance abuse. I was not allowed to transport her where she is now, and am only allowed to visit for a few hours on the weekends. It is a very restrictive DBT facility. At first I was really worried about her safety there, but on her last night inpatient before being transferred, the nurse found that she had been stockpiling her nightly sleeping meds (planning to take them all her last night inpatient) so I then decided that she really needed to do the residential thing. The psych called today and said they are going to try effexor xr. She has previously been on Celexa, Prozac and Wellbutrin. None have helped in the slightest.

Here's what I'm wondering - insurance will only pay for residential for so long... Does anyone have experience where insurance paid for a longer time period than 30-60 days? We have BCBS. Anyone know of a therapeutic boarding school that bills insurance for the medical portion? She will still need to complete her senior year of high school and honestly, the situation has escalated with drugs and violent thoughts that we (the fam and the psychiatrists) feel longer term help is needed. Thanks so much for your advice!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders