Hello, DisneyMom &
I am really sorry for all of the trauma and pain you and your family has been going through. It's really terrible to watch our children suffer and self-destruct right before our very eyes, and feel like there is nothing we can do to help them... .You are in the right place now; all of the members of this Board know exactly what you are going through
Your daughter went to the ER last night? Did the Hospital want to keep her for observation, or give her any Psychiatric help for self-harming? You say she has returned to self-harming; does she have a Therapist or Psych of any kind for help? Has she gotten any sort of diagnosis as of now? Has she been diagnosed with Depression, and has she gotten any Treatment for it?
Not only does your daughter need the help of Professionals, but do you have any Counselor for yourself? For your Husband and other daughter? The situation really is more than we family members can handle alone, all tangled up in our BPD loved one's troubles and emotions and symptoms and behaviors... .What sort of Professional help is available to you and your family?
One thing you can do right now, if you haven't already, is read every single
link to the right-hand side of this page, and check out the
Feature Articles linked to under the 4 photos at the top of the Parenting Board threads page. You will find so many good Articles and Workshops available on this site, and help for your specific needs. In my mind, the best thing you can do to help your daughter stop self-harming is to get her Professional help; if she already sees a Therapist, etc., then I would call him/her with the specifics of last night's event, and ask for help. Maybe your daughter would need some sort of In-Patient Program tailored for teens? I wouldn't try to go this alone, DisneyMom, and we are here to help you figure this out