Gossip destroyed post-relationship friendship with ex

[MPathetiCoD]

Hi all,

      My ex-girlfriend dumped me nearly 9 months ago, but we were on friendly terms since then. It was weird because I've heard all the talk about "splitting" but throughout our brief relationship--save for the initial first month of lovebombing--I always felt like I was in limbo with her and felt neither loved nor hated.

      But then, out of the blue, it happened. I'll explain:

      I hadn't heard from her in almost a month, which is nothing new, but I wanted to see her before I left town the following week. So I called. It rang but no one picked up. Later, I sent an email saying as much (I realize this may have been a trigger, but it was the truth). She texted me back immediately after. Apparently she had been told by my roommates estranged ex that I was a dangerous threat, and on drugs, and how I'm a stalker and I "talk sh*t about [my ex]", and all this bogus crap that isn't even remotely true. She told me to delete her number and never contact her again. I was shocked to say the least, and expressed my confusion and hope that she didn't actually think any of that was true. She used some bizarre logic that I guess was coincidental enough for her to believe the gossip (even though she's never actually met this person), and that was the end of that.

That was roughly 3 weeks ago and we've had no contact since then. And while I feel like this is probably a good time to just make a clean break and move on completely by going NC, a part of me feels like I need to set things straight and not let my name be dragged through the mud.

So, my question is, should I even bother trying to reconnect with her? Should I just let sleeping dogs lie and not concern myself with it? What would be a reason not to? Am I overlooking anything? I want to respect her wishes to "never contact" her again, but I think I deserve to say my piece and let the chips fall where they may. I just wonder what other people's thoughts might be on this.

Thank you for your suggestions and help.

PS. for those wondering what would compel a person spread such malicious gossip about me, the only reason I can think of is because I helped my roommate with his divorce proceedings and child custody case. Now that I think about it, I'm fairly certain she may also have NPD or BPD. Or she's just plain evil

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[Meili]

Has anything changed?

If not, what do you think that you could say to her to convince her that the roommate's ex was lying?