Hey Im confused: I'd like to join
schwing in welcoming you.
my childhood wasnt all bad. I mean yeah there we're things that happened that have effected me and that I'll remember forever but I don't want to feel like I'm a "victim" or that my parent has done/said things that are terrible. I'm also relieved that there might be a reason behind some of our issues. I guess what I'm trying to say is that my husband grew up in an "actually" abusive home and I don't want to seem like I'm whining about a kinda difficult childhood.
You don't have to have been severely abused to have your family dynamics affect you in some negative way. Good for you for seeking therapy! You can't change your past, but you can own your future.
There's also the issue now that we have children. So not only are we worried about constantly protecting them from his family, were worried about emotionally protecting them from mine.
You will probably want to set some
BOUNDARIES with both sets of parents to protect your children and yourselves. Boundaries are for you to set and consistently enforce. Your parents won't generally like the boundaries.
If you think your parents or your inlaws might be abusive to your children, one boundary might be that the children won't ever be left alone with the grandparents. That would generally eliminate babysitting and overnight stays.
What type of behaviors would you anticipate from the grandparents?