Is it your home? You suggested that you could call the police to have him evicted. There is no shame in that. Do you want him out of your life?
This is the 5th time he's been In rehab this year. Last time he was released at the beginning of July. While in rehab he's always the model patient and counselors are sure he will remain sober. At first he is active in his sobriety and attends outpatient consistently but then he alway relapses. He also expressed a desire in seeking therapy for his BPD which he's finally accepted. But now it's the middle of August and he's stopped attending outpatient. His moods are erratic. He doesn't have a job and calls me demanding I send him $ or order him take out. I haven't done that but it's like he becomes a completely different person.
I had my mom hire him to work around the house bc I thought it would help get him back on his feet but as soon as she handed him cash he disappears for days and stops answering the phone. He didn't contribute to any bills. When he was in rehab we sat down and discussed consequences if he didn't follow through w treatment or was abusing alcohol again.
Now I call him to say - hey your counselor said you didn't show up and you're getting kicked out of the outpatient program you have to leave and he starts raging and cursing at me and screaming. He takes no responsibility for his actions. So I do want him to leave. What I really wish is that he would acknowledge that he broke the agreement and followed through w getting care on his own but I don't see that happening.
He has no $, no friends to stay with and his family is on the other side of the country and are not really in a position to help. He's a high functioning BPD who has held professional jobs in the past but now I feel like he's not even trying. Meanwhile, I'm drowning.