My ex always showed me disrespect in the relationship, examples include:
Leaving me in his car numerous times whilst he ran errands - including training for a marathon for up to 2 hours each time in a heatwave.
Over messages he said "I can't believe last night happened, dream check moment!" I replied, kinda trying to deflect too many compliments "Me too, but stop with the compliments haha, im gonna end up with a big head" - his reply was weird "I'm not complimenting you, I was impressed with myself for having slept with someone like you" ... What the
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When I asked simple requests, like expressing i thought it was rude to go on insta when I was trying to tell him about something he'd say stuff like: "you're putting doubts in my mind. you're making me feel guilty. you expect me to change my behaviour for you - like you expected me to comfort you, and I don't get why you wanted to make me feel bad"
Dumping me for being slightly annoyed for him being late back from aforementioned training whilst i was ill and waiting in a cafe - called me manipulative, selfish and stupid
Being inconsistent with what he said (e.g. "I don't like him" and then if I saw him speaking to him, saying "oh i thought you weren't friends?") and then getting pissed off when I asked why.
Said it was ALL ME:
I was sabotaging the relationship. I was being very selfish and looking for reasons to be sad.
That he was so "so so so sure of me" and that I spent my time putting doubts into his head.
When I told him that I was insecure about my body after rape, and that it made me feel disgusting next to other girls he said "yeah, we know all this" (this floored me)
"what you think doesn't matter."
"I need to protect myself from you. I am my priority".
He dumped me in October last year.
We met up before Christmas - this was 3 months post-breakup. He said vaguely that he was sorry that we had broken up - and that he was sorry how he acted. He had been so depressed since - he stayed in bed for 3 weeks after we split, started self-harming again, thought I had gone forever; "to say I missed you would be the biggest understatement of my life". He said our breakup was messy because of how "united" we are. He said he didn't know what to do for the best.
We slept together this weekend again after I went to pick my stuff up. Now, he likes to leave me on read for hours at a time whilst I ask what I should do with his flat key he put in my bag, and the OTT birthday present he got me (which he put in my bag without asking).
On Tuesday last week I asked whether I could call him because I wanted clarity on the situation. He told me he was away with his training team abroad (but didn't have the decency to tell me over the weekend) - is that something to do with control? Like I wasn't worthy of knowing? Seems bizarre.
Anyway he text saying yes ring me tomorrow (weds) anytime in the day (is that a control thing as well, he always gave me specific times to call about issues)
I just didn't replied.
He then text at the weekend saying he was back and let him know whether I wanted the call.
I felt rude, so I replied saying that it was about us sleeping together at the weekend (as a disclosure - because I didn't want to spring it on him, and I wanted to give him the option of NOT having the conversation, if you see what I mean).
Anyway. He replied saying yes ring whenever, ring tomorrow? So I said yep, no problem give you a ring then (he gave me a specific time obviously). When I said he could ring me when he gets the chance at the time he said ... no call. He's now messaged me saying I will ring you before you go to bed ...
WHAT THE
PLEASE READ. Why didn't he just leave the
PLEASE READing phone call, say it was a bad idea, make an excuse, tell me to leave him alone, block me - any of those options.
What's this game he's playing?
