Hi pear
I join
Harley Quinn in welcoming you to the bpdfamily.
Your family is going through so much and it truly is exhausting. While my daughter at 15 was self harming, she was never hospitalised as a result and I can't imagine how emotionally challenging suicide ideation is for you . Harley Quinn offers you some sound guidance about
caring for yourself as BPD takes a lot of energy and reslience.
we have climbed the service ladder and are feeling like hope is dwindling. Our daughter is likely to have to come home and we are not certain what we can offer her next for support. Difficulty seeing what to do with the falsity, fabrications, outright lying and the false abuse allegations. Thank you for your support.
I live in Australia, so I can't comment on the mental health system in other countries but I can understand your frustrations and feelings of helplessness. There are many parents here who have been through similar issues so I'm glad you've raised this as others will chime in and hopefully offer some insights here.
I have also read "Walking on Eggshells"; a wonderful book that validated many things for me I am now reading "Get me out of here" a biography by Rachel Reiland, who was hospitalised on numerous occasions and through years of therapy, recovered from BPD. Her book is very inspiring. I know it's not much but I hope if you get a chance to read it that it gives you some much needed hope.
We would love to share more of your journey, we are all here to support you through the crisis and beyond.
Merlot