I have been no contact for 3.5 months and have heard nothing... .I tried to contact her along the way... .I have read that this simply empowers them and makes them believe that you are at their disposal when they need you.
Has your ex blocked you ? YES; NO PHONE, NO TEXT, NO EMAIL AND NO SOCIAL MEDIA When you say you tried contacting her do you mean you were unable to ? YES, BUT I TRAVEL FOR WORK AND TRIED TO CALL FROM THE HOTEL PHONE A COUPLE OF TIMES SINCE IT WAS NOT BLOCKED. SHE HUNG UP ONCE I ANNOUNCED MY NAME THEN CALLED THE COPS OR HAD AN ATTORNEY DRAFT A THREATENING LETTER I thought chasing them and them ignoring you gives them an ego boost and encourages ther behaviour ? WELL, I AM NOT ONE TO TAKE THINGS LYING DOWN. THE FIRST TIME WAS THE DAY OF THE B/U... .THE SECOND TIME WAS IN XMAS EVE. I THOUGHT THAT BY THAT TIME, SHE MIGHT HAVE CALMED DOWN A BIT TO EXPALIN HERSELF, NO SUCH LUCK Not by giving them silence ? I suppose they are all different . NAH, I AM PRETTY SURE THAT SHE IS EMPOWERED NOW BY MY ACTIONS.
She still has some of my property, including the engagement ring that I want to have returned. I also have a large cache of her stuff (much of which is very valuable). I am contemplating having a lawyer send her a letter to compel her to return my things to me but wonder if that would play into the power? I gotta tell ya: I REALLY want some closure and my greatest wish is to have her act like an adult and provide an explanation for her actions. But the extent to which she has built walls prohibiting contact and corresponding anger, I can see that there would be no greater pain for her than to face me and do what I most want her to do. I think that the shame is so great, that she would seriously prefer a bullet to the head.
Its funny... .we NEVER disagreed or argued... .it was a nice relationship.