Worn out

[Depression = 72% of members]

I think I have failed.  I have tried my hardest to improve things i.e. to not make things worse, to ensure I validate, to not take seriously what feel like highly personalised and pretty constant attacks when I would not take them personally if they did come from an actual three year old - but I cannot do it.  My partner is relentlessly telling me I have done something wrong and throwing accusations.  I have noticed almost everything she says and does contains an explicit or implicit criticism.

Today was too much - I have asked her to leave - she was of course even more angry and started saying she was going to have me locked up etc. and then started physically pushing me and pushed me over then kicked me.

I said I could not cope anymore and that my view is that she needs to have more help before this has a chance to work and it takes time even if she has found the right counsellor.

I just feel broken by it all and cannot see how to carry on trying to make thing work without building myself up again.  I am just so sad.

[jc2]

I think I have failed.  I have tried my hardest to improve things i.e. to not make things worse, to ensure I validate, to not take seriously what feel like highly personalised and pretty constant attacks when I would not take them personally if they did come from an actual three year old - but I cannot do it.  My partner is relentlessly telling me I have done something wrong and throwing accusations.  I have noticed almost everything she says and does contains an explicit or implicit criticism.

Today was too much - I have asked her to leave - she was of course even more angry and started saying she was going to have me locked up etc. and then started physically pushing me and pushed me over then kicked me.

I said I could not cope anymore and that my view is that she needs to have more help before this has a chance to work and it takes time even if she has found the right counsellor.

I just feel broken by it all and cannot see how to carry on trying to make thing work without building myself up again.  I am just so sad.

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[Moselle]

jc2,

I have experienced something similar and I can empathise with your desire for her to get help. What is her response to that?

It sounds like this has escalated to violence and threats. Please take these things seriously. Have you made a police report of the violence? You don't have to charge her, but I highly suggest you go down and make an affidavit about what happened and who did what. It may be that later, her version will be significantly different to the truth if she wants you to be locked up.

Please consider your safety, emotional and physical. That is most important here.

What is happening now? Has she left?

[jc2]

Yes - stormed out really in anger.

I cannot work out what to do.

[Moselle]

It must be very difficult at the moment for you. Hang in there JC2. It will get better

She's had time to calm down. What is she doing/saying now?

Did you make a statement at the police station yet? To work on this effectively, it's important to ensure your safety first

[Moselle]

Have a look at the following resources regarding safety

Safety First

I was also physically abused by my ex. I know that I felt numb and confused. Here is a link that might be of assistance

TOOLS: Domestic Violence Against Men