"Just out of interest, how did you end it and what did you say?"
Loose,
I don't know if your question was directed at me, but since you quoted me I assume that it was. I didn't say anything or give any reason upon terminating the relationship. I simply stopped responding to all communication.
She had me triangulated with an exbf. I had expressed my displeasure with the situation in a polite way. She, of course, would not accept that she was the problem in said scenario. Her accounting had/has him as the problem. Also in a polite manner, I told her that when my hope dried up that our relationship would right itself, I would be gone. Her unacceptable behavior continued, and I kept my word. (There was the whole range of BPD behavior concentrated over our 8 month relationship as well, but this was the jump light.)
I was grocery shopping one night and she called me raging over the phone about a very trivial matter (Her rage was not directed at me.). At that moment, for whatever reason, clarity came: I accepted that there would never be peace with this woman. That was in early Feb., and that was the last time that we spoke verbally. With the exception of a very few necessary text communications on my end, I have been strict NC. Our relationship goes all the way back to childhood (There is a 32 year seperation in there.). This is not what I chose, but I saw no other alternative but to get out. I had no idea she was/is mentally unhealthy until our romance started. We had a friendship before, and a very good one, now we have nothing.
She will text me about once a week with the dribble mentioned in my other post. What she has omitted in all post b/u communication is asking me why I stopped talking to her. She knows the answer, but she is unwilling/unable to accept responsibility for it. This is not to say that she doesn't project her guilt/anger/blame onto me in some texts. It is a very bad situation all around. I am trying to figure out some way to frame some type of relationship between us that we'd both be safe in (I am now a trigger to her.). As of right now, my thoughts on this matter have failed me.
Thanks appollo
