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I have a theory put in layman's terms. Those of us with PD traits learning how to swim use swimmies. (little blow up floaties around the arms, do they still make these?) So if we are never taught how to swim. We use people for swimmies. The problems arise when the air deflates from these swimmies, and we begin to drown, wondering where the air went...Lets all learn to swim. I wish you well Peace
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I dunno, from my experience you build self esteem by giving yourself non comparing compliments (comparing compliments fill the ego, not self esteem). You learn to treat yourself well, and not always rescue everyone at the cost of yourself. You start believing that you don't need other people in order to fulfill you because you build a life that you enjoy even when alone. And you validate yourself instead of depending on others to validate you (although it's still nice to be validated). And you will shed your dysfunctional personality traits.
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i like both analogies!
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alone.
Appears to me as a loaded term. Meaning if you asked many, you would get many answers. Love, crazy, and many others. So how does one learn allowing loaded terms, to lead the way?
i like both analogies!
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