Thanks for letting me vent

[Depression = 72% of members]

When I first met my soon-to-be wife, she would continuously complain that her then-husband would not be a part of the family. She saw me as the family man, and that was one of many reasons why she fell in love with me. After marrying me and continuing to realize that I am a family man, now go 14 years later, there is going to be an Easter celebration with her family tomorrow. She and her D17 have decided they are not going, because they are too busy. To top it all off, they basically ignore me unless they want something or if I start a conversation with them.

Thanks for letting me vent!

[Samuel S.]

When I first met my soon-to-be wife, she would continuously complain that her then-husband would not be a part of the family. She saw me as the family man, and that was one of many reasons why she fell in love with me. After marrying me and continuing to realize that I am a family man, now go 14 years later, there is going to be an Easter celebration with her family tomorrow. She and her D17 have decided they are not going, because they are too busy. To top it all off, they basically ignore me unless they want something or if I start a conversation with them.

Thanks for letting me vent!

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[an0ught]

Happy Easter Samuel S. 

[Samuel S.]

Happy Easter to you as well, anOught! 

[Samuel S.]

My BPDw is starting to realize how she is doing too much and how it is affecting her emotional and physical health. I could have said the very same things to her, but she has wanted to pursue another career, to work, and to do other things, while she left herself, her D17, and me in the dark.

Her medium-counselor and an acupuncturist independently stated to my BPDw that she is possibly getting a form of cancer due to doing so much, wanting to show her mother that she is better than the degrading and the abuse that she experienced. Of course, she and I are concerned, and she is going to be given a physical next week.

As a result, she is constantly on the go, trying to prove her own mother wrong. Thus, she last night was not able to sleep well due to her mind chatter. This morning, she was naturally in a grumpy mood. I let her vent and validated what she was saying.

Her medium-counselor said that she should not take summer school classes, but only work part-time in order to recuperate. Also, her medium-counselor suggested that she should complete the PhD. program in 5 years instead of 4 years, which she has taken to heart. Again, if I were to have suggested this, she would have discounted what I would say, but she had to learn on her own. So, hopefully, she will begin to mend herself.

In the past and now, she has not focused much on her D17 and on me. Hopefully, she will learn to balance her professional goals with having a personal life.