Diagnosis + Treatment
The Big Picture
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? [ Video ]
Five Dimensions of Human Personality
Think It's BPD but How Can I Know?
DSM Criteria for Personality Disorders
Treatment of BPD [ Video ]
Getting a Loved One Into Therapy
Top 50 Questions Members Ask
Home page
Forum
List of discussion groups
Making a first post
Find last post
Discussion group guidelines
Tips
Romantic relationship in or near breakup
Child (adult or adolescent) with BPD
Sibling or Parent with BPD
Boyfriend/Girlfriend with BPD
Partner or Spouse with BPD
Surviving a Failed Romantic Relationship
Tools
Wisemind
Ending conflict (3 minute lesson)
Listen with Empathy
Don't Be Invalidating
Setting boundaries
On-line CBT
Book reviews
Member workshops
About
Mission and Purpose
Website Policies
Membership Eligibility
Please Donate
May 16, 2024, 11:25:10 AM
Welcome,
Guest
. Please
login
or
register
.
1 Hour
5 Hours
1 Day
1 Week
Forever
Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins:
Kells76
,
Once Removed
,
Turkish
Senior Ambassadors:
Cat Familiar
,
EyesUp
,
SinisterComplex
Help!
Boards
Please Donate
Login to Post
New?--Click here to register
Experts share their discoveries
[video]
99
Could it be BPD
BPDFamily.com Production
Listening to shame
Brené Brown, PhD
What is BPD?
Blasé Aguirre, MD
What BPD recovery looks like
Documentary
BPDFamily.com
>
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
>
Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup
> Topic:
Silent Treatment
Pages: [
1
]
Go Down
« previous
next »
Print
Author
Topic: Silent Treatment (Read 359 times)
SybilVane
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 59
Silent Treatment
«
on:
July 04, 2014, 07:41:02 PM »
I've been reading some old topics regarding the 'silent treatment' as a 'method' used by many BPD as a way to punish their partners.
Does anyone know any other reason which can be behind this behaviour?
Which was the longest the period of 'silent treatment' imposed by your BPD partner? These periods tend to be longer according some pattern (time of relationship, intensity of the feelings etc)?
Thanks for sharing your experience and opinion.
Logged
RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING
This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.
patientandclear
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Relationship status: single
Posts: 2785
Re: Silent Treatment
«
Reply #1 on:
July 04, 2014, 11:43:33 PM »
The workshop on silent treatment and many of our experiences reflect that silent treatment also occurs when the pwBPD is dissociating or needs time to re-regulate, stabilize or recover her or his footing. Some of the BPD partners of members here have reported having very little awareness of why they were "away" for so long. It's almost as if aspects of their consciousness were suspended for a time. Often this goes along with fear of rejection if they were to re-emerge and make contact.
It's not unheard of for silent treatment to extend for many months, with the pwBPD considering that they are not even broken up, necessarily.
Logged
rodman8
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 40
Re: Silent Treatment
«
Reply #2 on:
July 04, 2014, 11:44:26 PM »
The first was two weeks, but there were a couple texts here and there. We were still dating at the time though. And, there was no punishment. She was obviously trying to hide something from me, and did not want to come clean on her lie. The second time was one week, and that was from a minor argument we had. I broke the no contact, or who knows how long it would have lasted. The third time was 5 weeks, and that was after we broke up and she met the new guy, so obviously she did not know how to tell me there was someone else. The fourth time was two months, and it was right before I was supposed to come out and visit her. She cancelled at the last minute, and disappeared until once again I broke the no contact. This last time has been four months since I last received a text from her. I lent her $3,000 (stupid, stupid move on my part) and after telling me she had half my money ready to be sent to me, it never came. She then disappeared and blocked me from her social media. Nice person, huh? I have no idea if I will hear from her again. However, I have decided to sue her, so one way or another she will have to deal with it in some capacity.
The silent treatment is excruciating. I hate, hate, hate it. But you can't teach good behavior. They have to hold themself accountable, and they almost always choose not to.
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?
Pages: [
1
]
Go Up
Print
BPDFamily.com
>
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
>
Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup
> Topic:
Silent Treatment
« previous
next »
Jump to:
Please select a destination:
-----------------------------
Help Desk
-----------------------------
===> Open board
-----------------------------
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
-----------------------------
=> Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup
=> Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting
=> Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship
-----------------------------
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
-----------------------------
=> Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
=> Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD
-----------------------------
Community Built Knowledge Base
-----------------------------
=> Library: Psychology questions and answers
=> Library: Tools and skills workshops
=> Library: Book Club, previews and discussions
=> Library: Video, audio, and pdfs
=> Library: Content to critique for possible feature articles
=> Library: BPDFamily research surveys
Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife
Loading...