You've got quite a challenge ahead of you, by the sounds of things, Blim. But it sounds like a good goal to have... .I just have one question, for your own consideration... .how much of your motivation for this is a need to rescue and how much is a clear goal of sharing what you have learned? How are you going to feel if you hike across the country only to be met by resistance and negativity? Have you got your details all worked out? ~~~okay I guess that was more than one question... . ... .the mama bear in me kicked in... .
I'm in a place where I'm trying to sort out which of my actions are enabling, and which are simple validation and recognition of need. And many years ago, I actively sought bringing my foo into my healing only to be met with an ousting... .almost no one in my foo speaks to me now, but my mom, and even then, it's only two/three times a year. Enough to keep up the appearance of a r/s, but that's it. Hope your situation goes better than mine did.
I'm sorry you lost your aunt, but it sounds like you are making the best of the situation and your 'new eyes' are bringing clarity to your foo. Those are really great milestones, Blim.
Thanks for sharing,
c.