i feel your pain. in answer to your question, i felt clear of it after one year. depending on how you feel, you can look at that as a long time from now or a short time from now, im sure. it also may not take you that long. its possible it may take longer. even if/when you feel fully detached though, its hard to speak to potential triggers.
i consider 70 days to still be very early. having said that, i think in this post alone you illustrate a great deal of progress.
Once Removed: Thank you for the kind words. There was a time after each B/U which typically lasted 3-4 months that I would just start to get better and she would re-appear. This cycle happened a few times and like a Pavlov Puppy after B/U 2 and 3 I would wait by the door in great anticipation for her return. It wasn't until the 4th B/U, burnt false promises, blatant cheating and far worse lies, a major incident with law enforcement as well as a mini stroke that something in me snapped. A sense of hitting a rock bottom reality that the person I had been helping and supporting, encouraging and supporting either couldnt stand me or felt so unworthy of me that she was doing all she could to push me away and punish me. I came to the point of suicide and at that moment I realized I was Done and done for good with this person and relationship. No more recycles, no more expectations, simply Done.
Sounds like you are heading in the right direction, at least it's about what is best for you now.
Garlic: Thank you. Wish you the best on this difficult journey.
