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Son's girlfriend is borderline. Terrifying

« on: February 19, 2016, 07:33:38 PM »

My 17 year old son has been in a serious relationship with a borderline for almost 4 years. She's tearing him down and then building up with her "love" and neediness (he becomes her "hero" constantly. Other than not discussing her with him IE letting her control and inflame our relationship I don't know what to do. I want to hand him any book or online test to show him what she's doing but I'm afraid because he's so entrenched and in love.


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Re: Son's girlfriend is borderline. Terrifying

« Reply #1 on: February 19, 2016, 07:52:21 PM »

What kind of traits had she exhibited that led you to BPD? Do you have any type of relationship with her?


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