don't know where to start

[cindyomom]

My son has just told me he has BPD.  He will not discuss it with me.  I am researching it and my heart is broken.  I don't know what to do.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[lbjnltx]

Hi cindyomom,

I'm glad that you found us!

I'm sorry to learn that your son has BPD.  My daughter was diagnosed with emerging BPD at age 12... .I thought "OK, now I know what we are dealing with I can start learning and turn this around".  When I began to research about the disorder I too was devastated and then began to become confused because I didn't understand how my child could have this disorder.  She was never abused, abandoned, neglected or been through trauma.

Do you feel that way too?

[qcarolr]

Cindyomom   

May I ask the age of your son? What of the BPD patterns have you experienced with him? There are some really good resources under "Foundation Reading" on the right sidebar -- books, articles and videos. They are not as discouraging as some of the other internet search results, especially those based on out-dated ideas, strategies, research.

Getting to know other parents here with sons, they often have a different appearance of BPD than some of us with daughters. I hope they will be around to greet you soon. Please let us know what questions you are struggling with the most. We care -- we can listen.

qcr