How about "a BPD is someone who fears rejection so much that they cannot risk"

[Not2Crazy]

How about

"a BPD is someone who fears rejection so much that they cannot risk loving anyone so they create a persona of themselves that is what they think others expect a lovable person to be and thus you can never measure up if you reject them"

as a means to explain to a new r/s what a BPD is without just saying "she was 100% wrong"

and

this begs the question  what's wrong with me? why did I fall for it?

I think because I had issues about being accepted and now I think we all ... .  the extroverted and the introverted need to have the initiative to always say what we want and what we expect from in any relationship regarding everything

income( wise use of it ) , personal(privacy, respect), sexual( I don't need to qualify this ? )

all together these items we know as boundaries and may have expected before we were exposed to an abnormal person.

I guess I never thought about those I just wanted those 3 and only got 1 of them and am not finding that I can start a new r/s. Am I too wounded?