Invitation from his family...

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My dBPDh has cut out all contact with his family in the last 10 years.

He has accepted that I talk to his sister when she calls, but that fluctuate with his feeling of the moment (some days he hates that I even talk to her, others he's OK with). I don't always tell him when we talk (she sincerely wants to know how he is and if there is anything that she and her brothers can help him... .  they even offered to attend a T session if he thinks that can help HIM. He doesn't believe it.)

I just got a call from her asking us for breakfast next Saturday. I want to go, I want to keep a link to his family so they can understand what BPD is. They deserve to know how he is doing. I told her that I was more than happy to go, and would share with him the invitation, but lately it hasn't been as good as the holidays (he even went to her job to wish her happy holidays, but he didn't asked to see if she was there so he toured the shop and left. She was told that someone looking allot like her little brother was walking around, but they dismissed it since he didn't ask for her... .  which we usually do.)

I think that it's a good thing to tell him about the invitation since tomorrow he has a T session and he can discuss it with his T before he can say Yay or Nay. What do you think?

[Foreverhopefull]

My dBPDh has cut out all contact with his family in the last 10 years.

He has accepted that I talk to his sister when she calls, but that fluctuate with his feeling of the moment (some days he hates that I even talk to her, others he's OK with). I don't always tell him when we talk (she sincerely wants to know how he is and if there is anything that she and her brothers can help him... .  they even offered to attend a T session if he thinks that can help HIM. He doesn't believe it.)

I just got a call from her asking us for breakfast next Saturday. I want to go, I want to keep a link to his family so they can understand what BPD is. They deserve to know how he is doing. I told her that I was more than happy to go, and would share with him the invitation, but lately it hasn't been as good as the holidays (he even went to her job to wish her happy holidays, but he didn't asked to see if she was there so he toured the shop and left. She was told that someone looking allot like her little brother was walking around, but they dismissed it since he didn't ask for her... .  which we usually do.)

I think that it's a good thing to tell him about the invitation since tomorrow he has a T session and he can discuss it with his T before he can say Yay or Nay. What do you think?

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[Wanda]

 hi

yep i would let him know she called and what she wants, and let him decide if you and he will go or not.  give him time to figure this out.

i have a daughter and son that does not talk, and i wished they would, but due to hurtful things that happended they don't hopefully in the future they will.   but i know from experience you can't force it, or talk about it alot... .  support your husband in his decision what ever that may be...

[Foreverhopefull]

When I told him, he said :"I'm not ready for this, but please go."

So I'm going... .