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February 04, 2013, 10:48:56 PM »
rewind: 6 years ago the mother of my daughter left, signed away 5 days of custody, then sued me 6 months later. She got another day.
subsequent recycle and fast forward 6 years.
current: again she left for another guy. now we have two children. we did get married that lasted a year. we are now divorced and she signed away 5 full days of custody again. that was 5 months ago. now she texted me that she is filing for more custody again.
IMAGINE THAT!
Funny thing is this time i am prepared. 1. I now know she is crazy. 2. I already have a lawyer before she even did this that she doesnt know about. 3. I have saved EVERYTHING.
However, I am still anxious.
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What is the current schedule, besides the 72/28 split? Do you alternate weekends?
You have history as the parent with majority parenting time. It's hard to imagine the court reversing that. If your current parenting schedule is close to the typical alternate weekend schedule (2-3 overnights alternating weekends and an evening or overnight in between) that the court may not see a need to change it too much, if at all.
I notice you posted that you've set some boundaries recently. I'm thinking this may be her response, her way to erode your boundaries, to get back at you. It may not last. The question is how long it would take her to revert back to her norm.
Keep majority time. Keep Residential Parent for School Peurposes which typically goes to the majority time parent anyway, but don't leave that up for grabs.
Glad to hear you've been documenting. Good for you. Be careful about your interactions with her and those she chooses to be her friends or advocates. She could try to frame you for some misbehavior.
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The current schedule is the children are in my official custody from Wednesdays at 445 until Monday morning at 0745. She has time with the children every other weekend from 0930 until 3pm.
Now she is a server and I have a regular business hours job. My daughter is 7 and in first grade. My son is 4 so instead of putting him in daycare, she does watch him while I am at work on Thursdays and Fridays. I could put him in daycare if I chose because they are actually my days, but I have been working with her and my son will have enough time in school in the future. I understand she has some problems, but always treated our youngest child very well. It is my daughter that she has been unkind to (emotionally).
I plan on countering to have a normal schedule. See she moved out of county and is driving my daughter into school on 2 days a week and i guess now she will be looking for more days.
We came up with this schedule together. I did not like that she moved 20 miles away, but that was her decision. I am going to request a normal custody arrangement. Weekends for her.
I would agree that she is trying to get at me some how. In the past month, she has done numerous things to try and get me to fight with her. Contacted a close friend of mine (not hers) to get together (a co-working psychiatrist), brought the guy she left me for to my house, had my son playing outside in 38 degree weather the day after I had him at urgent care because of a 4 day fever of 102, was late for her visitation because she overslept and blamed me for not calling to wake her up, and now this.
I have not provided her with any supply so here we go. Just like the last time. Luckily I do not have contact with her "group" of friends and since I play daddy 5 nights/week, I have other things to do than associate with anybody close to her.
Thanks for the replay ForeverDad.
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