extreme rage at property settlement

[cal644]

I can say I thought I had seen rage these last 9 months since being split black - but nothing like what I have seen since my wife met with her attorney and found out I will be keeping the house (which she wanted me to sell to pay off her debt) , I get to keep the business and it is not listed as one of my assetts (it was gifted to me by my father), She has to cover half of the debt - most of which she incurred (she thinks I should have to pay it all), I have been called everything under the sun - lying, cheating, hidding assetts, how she is going to tell our daughter how she will never have a place on her own because of me.  Now I can see to her it was all about the money - and her new "friend" that makes close to minimum wage will not be able to support her "needs" and that she cannot rely on me to cover their new life.  So the rage was bad before - but now she is projecting all her rage at me because I don't have to support her decesions or support her financially.

[marbleloser]

Bask in the justice.

And,of course it's all about money.Is there anything else their entitled minds care about?

Good job! Now,just sit back and let her blow up enough that you have to report her for harassment.That would be icing.

[Waddams]

I guess in certain situations, like in a divorce setting with a BPD, if the BPD is raging at you, does it mean you're probably doing something right?

Sounds she just got run over by the Karma Bus. 

[ForeverDad]

Inheritances are often viewed as not a part of marital assets as long as they're kept separate and not commingled.

So she is blaming you to others.  Not surprising, but it is very hard for a child to withstand and handle the intense blaming.  Your daughter shouldn't have to face that but likely the courts and even child therapists can't or won't block her from doing that.

If you don't already have Richard Warshak's Divorce Poison, get it, it will help your relationship with your daughter.  It and the Eddy/Kreger Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder are two must haves often recommended here.

[slimmiller]

I can say I thought I had seen rage these last 9 months since being split black - but nothing like what I have seen since my wife met with her attorney and found out I will be keeping the house (which she wanted me to sell to pay off her debt) , I get to keep the business and it is not listed as one of my assetts (it was gifted to me by my father), She has to cover half of the debt - most of which she incurred (she thinks I should have to pay it all), I have been called everything under the sun - lying, cheating, hidding assetts, how she is going to tell our daughter how she will never have a place on her own because of me.  Now I can see to her it was all about the money - and her new "friend" that makes close to minimum wage will not be able to support her "needs" and that she cannot rely on me to cover their new life.  So the rage was bad before - but now she is projecting all her rage at me because I don't have to support her decesions or support her financially.

Karma!

In my case I kept the assets (house etc) and gave her 401k money for her share of the equity in it. Not exaclt wise on my part BUT, I am still far ahead. (all her idea I might add) Last week she started wining to me how she got 'nothing' and I got everything. Difference in her and I is I have not been blowing my part. She has

I know you have been through a lot cal644 and looks like its getting better. I just hope she can be mature enough to not drag your daughter into it much!