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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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« on: September 10, 2013, 02:55:40 PM »



We've been together for about 3 months now, which doesn't seem like long but we hit the ground running. We have such a strong beautiful connection and we knew minutes into our first date that this was going to be profoundly different for both of us. It took jut. Few week for me to see the dr. Jekyll / mr. Hyde effect... .And at first I thought "he's just a Gemini" but I started to see things in a Different light. There was no reason for it, but the switch would just flip SO FAST.

I thought I Could handle it, until he got suicidal on me one night. His attitude was so terrible and he felt worthless and desperate enough to actually start making plans. It was like he blacked out... .like he was possessed - he was NOT himself in the least. When he snapped out of it he apologized a million times, promised he'd never go back there and quit drinking. I can't go through that EVER again... .

He's looking into 30 day programs now, and all I want I for him to be healthy and happy. I'm trying to be strong because I know he needs me. I can't imagine being in his shoes and being alone! It doesn't help that he just found out he's adopted... .33 years old and now he has no idea who he is... .

Thanks so much for reading, listening, and supporting Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: September 10, 2013, 03:36:06 PM »

good luck and may GOD be with you
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« Reply #2 on: September 11, 2013, 08:11:02 AM »

i wish him luck on his 30day progam, and see how things turn out.

Do you want to stay with him thru the program and even after and what plan do you have for yourself, no matter which way things go with your bf?
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« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2013, 06:27:02 AM »

Hi tahoeheallove !

If he is showing signs of BPD, a 30 day program is a great start, however, it's just the tip of the iceberg! I hope he gets the very specialized help, like DBT, to help get him on track. Even DBT takes years, and is a lot of work!

In the meantime, you have an opportunity to do some work yourself. We have many resources here on the site to help you. Check out The Lessons on The Staying Board. You will find information on BPD and communications skill that you will need if you have any notion of maintaining this relationship!

Best Wishes,

Val78
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